I love new years. Something about rolling into a brand new year just does it for me.
Some people love it while others hate it. I’ve seen people that even look at New Years resolutions as setting themselves up for failure because “nobody ever keeps their New Year resolutions”.
It never sits with me well to hear that, but I respect where everyone is on their journey.
To me, failing is incredible when you are failing forward. However that looks.
And I KNEW that it wasn’t true, because I have mastered creating new habits and it all started 3 years ago when I decided to quit drinking when the New Year rolled in.
I had talked about quitting and tried to quit more times than I could recall. Just because I didn’t quit the second I thought about it didn’t make me a failure. I was feeling it out. I was buildinging the necessary foundation for me to quit. My entire life had revolved around drinking for as long as I can remember. It was everywhere and I had no idea how to live without it. Plus, I had built my entire identity around it. I worked in the bar, I went to the bar, I drank with friends, at home, anytime there was food, trips or really any activity involved, and on special occasions (we created
A LOT of special occasions). I didn’t know who I was without drinking.
That’s a lot to change at once.
I kept finding myself with a drink in my hand but I was always so proud of my micro breaks that I took, because those were just as hard as quitting forever.
Even if you start something and try it for an hour- one day- one week- WHATEVER length of time, you did it. You tried. You started.
If it is meant for you or something that you truly desire, it will keep coming back to you and each and every time it does – even when you dive in just a little bit- you are starting to see that you can. You are starting to create some action. You are giving yourself something to build off of.
The next time it comes around you’ll dive a little deeper. Do it a little differently. Stick it out a little longer. Learn a little more.
Then one day- you are here. Three years later, doing it. Living your dream. Staying committed. So glad you always restarted.
Starting over is beautiful.
Don’t let anyone tell you differently.
Not even yourself.
I am secure in my sobriety and knew that I was ready to dive into something new. I have been looking for my next one year challenge throughout 2024 and tried to start a lot of things – but I kept starting things and falling off. Consistency and I were not the best of friends, but I knew I was really trying my best. If I wanted my best to level up to even better, I need to look at why.
Why was I falling off? What was making it hard? Was I consistently falling off around the same emotions, situations, times of the year?
I soaked in everything that was throwing me off and took note. Then I rerouted my thoughts and looked for everything that would keep me on track.
If I want to stay on track, I need to focus more on what things keep me on track, because what we think- we create more of. I wanted more reasons to stay on track. I wanted my excuses to quit to be quickly overrun with why I won’t. I wanted to make this transition as easy as possible on myself and what I could control because I knew that, like every year- there is always a lot of unknown that pops up that we can’t control. I knew that I must trust that I will have the tools I need at the time that I need them and stay present. Stay committed.
That is one of the biggest things that throws me off track. If I think too far into the future- a lot of times it seems daunting. If on day one I am running thoughts about how I “have to do this for 364 days” I would bet on myself that I would fail. That never works for me.
I change the narrative to, “I did it! Today I did it. This week, I did it. This month, I did it.” I don’t care how long I have to go because I know from experience that hitting a year doesn’t mean quitting for me. It typically means recommitting because I only commit to things that I need and that benefit me greatly, especially on the harder days.
One minute, one moment, one day at a time.
I have gained so much awareness around my habits and how to set myself up for success. I have taken the time and consciously allowed myself to see all of the connections between my new habits and how I can best set myself up for success each and every time that I want to implement a change. I understand the mindset that I need to stay consistent and I understand how to get through every excuse and every tough day. I knew I was ready. With the New Year right around the corner, the time that is full of transformation for me, I leaned all in.
I went out to soak in the gorgeous, peaceful views in the desert and I asked my soul,
“What habits will most help me succeed in my dreams?
What daily things make me feel my best?
What daily actions open the doors to more of my desired opportunities?
What feels the best in my soul to commit to for one year?
I knew without a doubt that these 5 things would lead me to all of the other things that I want to see and do more of, as well as all of the dreams I have and more.
My entire body started to vibrate internally. I felt so alive as I thought about what life would look like if I committed to these actions daily. I could feel myself reflecting back on this journey throughout 2025 confidently. My soul knew without a doubt that these 5 things were for me. I sealed it in.
Meditate
(breath work + third eye)
Movement (flexibility / strength / balance)
Write (best selling author + blogger)
Learn (brain therapy)
Gratitude (soak it all in)
Spending time with each of these, every single day for 365 days and I truly believe that my life will be so different in the most beautiful ways.
I’m all in.
What are you working on this year? Why?
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